Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Hard times

I know that a lot of people don't really know me or my family. But I am asking for prayer for us.
Every time I read something Krista post or will just send sometimes for me to read it is like she kind of know what is going on with me even with out me tell or saying anything to anyone.,The post you made about submission hit when I read it last night. For I know that is what a wife is suppose to do. It is a hard thing for me at times because I am a very hard head to say the least.
And I want you to hear what I have to say about things. My husband and I have been together for 9 yrs this year and is until we were married 3yrs that we were really married. In the beginning it was money we did not have any and there was so many bills. Well we still have a ton of bills and trying to work though them .The money is starting to come in a little easier to where we can pay things on time and get things payed up a little. But in the last year or so it is like our marriage is back to the way it was in the beginning again and we have been at the point that I just want to give up. We don't argue about the money. We fight about little things about me having to work late now and me not doing things around the house like i use to, not spending time with him, when he gets home it is ok for him to take a nap to relax him but it is not ok for me to sew,read of something that I like to do to relax a little. And so on and so on. We know how to fake it well but when you fight in front of you child and they tell your In-laws then your in-laws say your child told on you on the way home what do you say to that. We try not to fight in front of or child but at time's our temper get in the way and we do.I have a frame with a poem we got from a friend at or wedding. It says

Marriage Takes Three
Marriage takes three to be complete;
It's not enough for two to meet.
They must be united in love
By love's creator; God above.
Then their love will be firm and strong;
Able to last when things go wrong,
Because they've felt God's love and know
He's always there, He'll never go.
And they have both loved Him in kind
With all the heart and soul and mind;
And in that love they've found the way
To love each other every day.
A marriage that follows God's plan
Takes more than a woman and man.
It needs a oneness that can be
Only from Christ,
Marriage takes three.
This frame is next to my bed to where when I get up I see it. I would like to say if you are reading this please keep my family in your prayers and thank you for listen to my thoughts.

4 comments:

Krista said...

I understand believe I understand. The best thing to remember is God is in control, if you let him be. Pray about it. Ask God to make your marriage what it should be. Tell your hubby that you want to be the wife that God wants you to be but you need his help, and you want to work together to be the best parents that you can be.

Krista said...

http://www.reviveourhearts.com/pdf/prayingforyourhusband.pdf

I found this today on hersoutherncharm.blogspot.com. Copy the link above into your browser and then print it. Start with this and I promise you that it will work. You can do it on your own. Jesse never even has to know. When you get serious with God he will make a change.

Valerie said...

I could not give you any better advice than Krista has. I saw a blog that had us "praying for our husbands for 31 days". I thought that was so neat. It is tough to make it financially right now and that puts big strains on marriages. Read Proverbs 31:10-31- That tells us what we are to be as a wife. It is hard sometimes but the main thing is to focus on the Lord and remember tha HE is in control. We just have to do our part by serving HIM. When you serve the Lord as HE wants us to everything will just fall into place. Argueing gets you no where. It is a dead end street. The best thing you can do for your child is to love your husband. Just remember that these little hurdles are just tests. We have to pass the test or we will be put through them over and over again. For financial help,go to Dave Ramsey.com and follow his plan and you will get out of debt. The bible says that the borrower is slave to the lender. Praying for you and yours. P.S. Keep your hands busy--in other words I am still waiting on you to teach me something.

Valerie said...

O.K. You are trying to tease me with this blog! Ha! I just wanted you to know that I am still waiting on seeing some of your projects. Love ya!